A Shared Experience

As we walk through life, why do we suddenly feel so alone when we experience difficulties and pain. There is often a sense of separateness from those around us, even if those people previously have been supportive. It’s almost as though there is a protection or a wall that goes up to try and prevent further hurt.

We suddenly get the feeling that we are the only ones in the world experiencing such suffering. Our emotions overwhelm us, which impacts our thoughts and our behaviors. Our minds cannot process all of these intense feelings that may overwhelm us all at once or change from one to another in mere seconds. In efforts to process these emotions our mind starts racing, flooding us with thoughts that are both realistic and unrealistic. Leaving us stranded in our own minds and bodies with a feeling of separateness. That no one else can possibly feel the way I do. That I am alone trying to hold myself together in a world that continues to go on around me like everything is as it should be. It’s not as it should be. My suffering and pain is real. It’s here and despite how much I don’t want it, that pain is not going anywhere.  

In this moment, I challenge you to begin to think about the suffering of others. Whether it be a friend or family member, a co-worker, a stranger on the street, or a person from the news. Beginning to recognize that we as humans are experiencing a world together that is impacted moment by moment with difficulties.

It’s a challenge isn’t it. To hold onto your own pain while thinking about the pain of others. This is in no way to negate your suffering. The pain and suffering you are experiencing is real.

This challenge is meant to bring an awareness that you are not alone. When we begin to realize we are not alone, we can begin to open ourselves up to supports around us. This openness may begin by connecting with others who are experiencing the same trauma, difficulties, or pain as you. Being able to share your feelings and thoughts with someone who has experienced something similar can often provide a sense of relief, a breaking down of that false sense of protection.

You do not have to suffer alone. As this realization takes effect, you may see over time that you are better able to share with others whom have not experienced your same pain. That others can be there for you despite their lack of complete understanding for what you have been through. It is your choice to reach out and share a bit of yourself and your experience in hopes of getting some relief. You need not sit alone with your pain.